Patterns of Domestic Violence

Charlie Sheen was recently arrested in relation to Domestic Violence claims. Yet, he has had a history of violence against women.

In 2005, while Richards, his second wife, was pregnant, she filed for divorce on the grounds that Sheen had abused drugs and alcohol and threatened her with violence.

In December 1996, Sheen was arrested and charged with attacking a girlfriend at his Southern California home. He pleaded no contest to the accusation, and was placed on two years' probation. That incident followed yet another, six years earlier, when he accidentally shot his then-fiancée, Kelly Preston, in the arm. The couple split up shortly afterwards.

In the case of Charlie Sheen he is a public figure so future wives and girlfriends can look up this information and think twice before getting in a relationship with him.

Yet, in the case of regular women how can we find out about potential abusers?

Here is a list of traits found in abusive people. These are the things we need to look into.

Below is a list of common behaviors that are seen in abusive people. I got these from a web site geared toward men. This just proves that abuse can't happen in any relationship dynamic if these personality traits are present.

1] Jealousy

2] Controlling Behavior

3] Quick Involvement: Many people in abusive relationships dated or knew their abusive partners for less than six months before they were married, engaged or living together.

4] Unrealistic Expectations: Abusive people will expect their partner to meet all their needs;

5] Isolation

6] Blames Others for Problems

7] Blames Others for Feelings: She will tell you, "You make me mad," "You are hurting me by not doing what I want you to do," or "I can't help being angry."

8] Hypersensitivity: An abusive person is easily insulted

9] Cruelty to Animals or Children

10] "Playful" use of Force in Sex

11] Verbal Abuse:

12] Dr. Jekyll and Mrs. Hyde

13] Past Battering:

14] Threats of violence

15] Breaking or Striking Objects

16] Any Force During an Argument