Sunday, September 5, 2010

You Logic isn't Earth Logic

So, there's a gossip piece up at the NY Post regarding this rumor that Ashton Kucher cheated on his wife, Demi Moore. According to dude logic in the post:

The more and more we got wrapped up in the convo between the two, the more and more we noticed how many smoking hot pictures Demi Moore had shared of herself in a bikini via her BlackBerry.

If this isn't proof there is no need to stray, we don't know what is.

So, if a woman is hot, her husband won't cheat on her? I think that's what dude-logic dude is thinking. Here's the thing though: cheating isn't about your partner, its about the cheater. There's a million and one reasons people cheat, but by no means is keeping a "rock hot body" some sort of vaccination against a straying partner. Just ask Elin Woods or Jennifer Aniston. This dude logic is not earth logic, nor is it helpful because it puts the responsibility of the cheating off of the cheater in onto the victim. Cheating occurs because it is something that the cheater wants to do...will seek to justify by any means, but fundamentally is a matter of choice made by the active, not the passive, party. So, I'm not going to link to the post article nor will I post a picture of Demi Moore's "hot body in a bikini" as she has been posting non-stop on twitter to prove why Ashton would never cheat. I don't know, nor do I really care, if Ashton Kucher has cheated, but I do care about these media narratives that hurt women and girls. This is a bad message because it blames the victim and makes romance ingenues nervous about "keeping her man." Pressure pressure pressure--stop that noise. Everyone is responsible for his/her own behavior, full stop.

1 comment:

  1. In the case to Demi and Ashton, we don't know these people. We don't even live in their town so everything we here about them is rumour.

    In the case, of cheating. Cheating is a selfish and self-serving act always. If you can tell you love one to the face that you want to have sex with others. Then it is all good. You give your loved one the option to stay or leave. The lying and sneaking that comes with cheating is what makes people mad about the cheating.